College girl ignores 5+ alarms every morning, screams at roommate when she turns them off: 'Someone thinks they're above reproach'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Mar 27, 2026 10:00 PM EDT

Is there anything more annoying than the sound of someone else's alarm?

You know the sound: it's way too early, and your roommate just can't seem to wake up. Their alarm has been going off for too long, and you wonder what you could do about it. You know they're completely asleep, and they're not going to do anything about it. But it's driving you nuts. It's keeping you awake when you'd much rather be sauntering back off to dreamland for a couple more hours. But what do you do in this situation? Do you intervene or do you let them live their lives? You're not their mother, so you don't feel like going in there and waking them up yourself. That would be untoward. But if this keeps happening, you're going to have to do something about it. 

That's the situation this woman was in when she was living in college dorms. Everything starts to change in college. You're gaining a new sense of independence, perhaps living on your own for the first time. You don't have authority figures constantly coming around and checking in on you. So your habits are bound to change, at least a little bit. You might sleep later than you used to. You might eat differently or wear different clothes. And you might not be used to living with a roommate. That can be a huge learning curve for a lot of people, and one that's not easy to get around.

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  • A woman hits the snooze button on her alarm
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  • Am I in the wrong for switching off my roommate's alarms?

    ok so i live at the college dorms and i share a room with another girl. this girl keeps a minimum of five alarms at early morning and wouldn't even wake up to them and the alarms keep ringing. At first I used to wake her up calling her from across the room to
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  • switch it off. but then after a while for whatever reason we started ignoring each other after she confronted me over something very silly. now the energy in the room is really awkward so i try not to talk to her as much as possible. so the other day when her alarms kept going off i got up from my bed, went
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  • over to her side of the room and slid the alarm off on her phone screen. she immediately woke up and yelled at me not to touch her phone and when i told her the alarms are annoying me she said you can call me and ask me to switch it off, you don't need to touch my phone for that. then i told her calmly to reduce the
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  • number of alarms to a maximum of two and she straight up pretended not to hear me. like why is it my responsibility to call her to switch off her alarms when it is causing disturbance in a shared space? can't she wake up to her own alarms? i genuinely don't know who is at fault here, so help out.
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  • Commenters gave their advice on the situation.

    Spare_Ad5009 NTA. Talk to your RA or Housing office about switching rooms. By this time of year kids have left due to sickness and flunking out.
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  • Sharing a room with someone is a whole other ballgame. You have to play by different rules just to keep the peace. You have to be mindful of the way you're using the space, and you don't want to invade the space of others. But things come up, and it's not always your fault. The way you respond to something, though, you can control. You can choose peace and communication, or you can choose passive aggression. There is a clear path here, but that doesn't mean that everyone takes it. Keep reading to find out what happened here and see what you think about it.

  • Safe_Wedding_2... For the people saying she shouldn't touch her phone, the only other 2 solutions are 1. Keep listening to the alarm
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  • 2. Wake her up and tell her to turn it off (NOT a long term solution??) I would do 2. ONCE and tell her its not my job to keep waking her up And then continue to turn it off after because no one wants to hear that sh. and I doubt she'll change
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  • If she does? Great! Op doesn't have to turn it off anymore NTA
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  • Annoyed_Karen Its difficult cause yeah you shouldn't be touching her things. But at the same time she's being super inconsiderate and disruptive, so all in all NTA. Is there anyone you can talk to about it that maybe help you navigate this?
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  • mclewi134 NTA. She only cares about herself and what she's doing. If you are able to, move into a different dorm room. She's being inconsiderate by not getting. up or turning off her 2000000 alarms.
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  • soraggedyann NTA how is she not awake enough to be able to turn her alarm off but also awake enough to notice you coming over and turning it off?? Ask your RA to switch rooms, she's being devious on purpose.
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  • Maleficent-Shop-... NTA. She can't keep setting five alarms in a shared room and then expect you to be the one waking her up. That said, I wouldn't touch her phone again since it just gives her a reason to dodge the actual issue. I'd talk to the RA and ask for
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  • mediation, because this is a shared-space problem, not a "you should call me" problem. In the meantime, earplugs might help save your sleep.
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  • Novel_Fox NTA someone thinks they're above reproach. So she can confront you about something she dislike but you asking her to turn her alarm off like a normal human being is crossing a line? Yeah no time to a file a complaint on her. A friend of
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  • mine managed to get terrible disruptive roomie moved out of their dorm after she spent all night talking on the phone with her family and friends and skipping classes to sleep all day
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  • Fun_Skirt8220 Start playing loud heavy metal music to help her wake up when the alarms are going off, she obviously needs more noise!
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  • TrelanaSakuyo ESH This is when the both of you start learning with different people with separate needs. You definitely shouldn't touch someone else's stuff without permission, but you also deserve a proper night's sleep. She needs to figure out a way to wake up without disturbing other people. This is literally what your RA exists to solve.
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  • tosser9212 NTA. You need to change rooms and she needs to be alone and responsible for her own stuff. It's not your responsibility to mind your roommate's attendance, and you shouldn't have to endure five frickin' alarms each day for her to meet her obligations.
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  • tsplantdaddy ESH it's not okay for you to touch her things without permission. Need to use your words and talk to her, several times if needed. She's obviously being very inconsiderate but maybe she has an undiagnosed sleep disorder and genuinely can't wake up, who knows.
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  • This is pretty much exactly what RAs are for. Take this issue to them to help you resolve it and move rooms if you need to.
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